Tuesday, September 23, 2008

Dad Update

Okay okay okay - time to update. Sorry - this has been so overwhelming and though we've gotten a lot of answers, more and more questions get generated, which has made me not want to post until I knew everything that's going on with my Dad. I've been asked to tell anyway, so here goes.

Dad had some major hip pain going on and while he was on his mission in NY, and he also got pneumonia. When they did a scan of his lungs to determine if it was pneumonia, they saw some spots on them. They told him to get them checked out when he got home.

He saw a doctor shortly after he got home from his mission and the doctor wanted to wait a few months and take another scan to contrast and compare.

Dad got another scan several weeks ago and it showed the spots were bigger, so he was then scheduled to get a lung biopsy. He got that and they determined it was cancer but it wasn’t lung cancer, that the cancer was being generated in another location

In the meantime, he got a bone scan on his hip to find out why it was so sore and there was an 11-centimeter cancer tumor on his pelvic bone. They then thought that was where the cancer was being generated from and decided to do a biopsy of that tumor to figure out a course of treatment.

The biopsy was done about a week or so ago and when Mom and Dad met with the doctor on Monday, he said Dad’s hip looks like termites got to it – that the cancer has eaten through his bone and joints and he has to have a full hip replacement, including his socket. This will take place on October 15.

BUT – they still don’t know where the cancer is being generated from, because the tissue samples they took showed it was being generated somewhere other than the hip, around the abdomen region.

He now has an appointment with a gut doctor on Monday to have a scope go down through his throat and see if they can’t find the source that way (they’ve already done an MRI on his abdomen and it came up clean).

Every time he has a doctor's appointment and we get an answer, another question gets generated – kind of like two steps forward three steps back. It’s incredibly frustrating.

Anyway, so many of you have told me you've prayed for both me and my dad/family and you've put his/our names on the temple roll and are keep him in your constant thoughts and prayers. Thank you thank you THANK YOU for that. It's these prayers that get me through the day.

We grow up thinking our parents are invincible, and even though as an adult I know that is not the case, I've still been caught completely unprepared to really deal with this. Knowing that there are people who don't know my dad at all yet are praying for him brings incredible strength.

Thank you.


johnson six said...

It is so true, we go through our lives depending on our parents, and it's interesting when we begin to feel like we need to be a protector to them. I hope and pray you and your family receive Heavenly fathers hand in his diagnosis and recovery.

TRICIA said...

our prayers are with you. Love ya tons!

Jen Hilton said...

Tara. I know it must be hard to write about all the details. It can sometimes make things feel more real. However, I've found that writing my feelings is a great way to let all my emotions out. Kind of like in-house therapy. Let us know if we can do anything for you. We love you!

The Foster Family said...

So sorry to hear about your dad- I hope you get more answers soon! Also, I wanted to know if it was OK to add your blog to our MHC Class blog? Let me know, no big deal if you don't, just thought I'd ask on the ones I have!


P.S. Are you going to the Reunion? Send me some photos- past AND present! :)

KCAimee said...

Sorry...when I commented, I should have told you I'm a fellow MHS class of '88 blogger. I found your blog through the MHS Class of '88 blog.

Aimee (Rippel) Ramirez

melanie said...

Do you still teach piano? I am looking for a teacher. Let me know. I have 3 students.

Crandell Fam said...

Wow, Tara, I had no idea. I am so sorry. We will definitely keep him in our prayers. When my dad had his kidney removed because of cancer this year it was quite scary and I realized more than ever that I am SO not ready for him to not just be there every single time I need him. I hope you get the answers you're looking for, and that he will be OK.